Put off Anxiety, Put on Peace

The New Man Part 6

By Marc Eskander


Anxiety. 

Contrary to popular belief, it isn’t a recent phenomenen. Very clearly, St Paul addressed anxiety in his Epistle to the Phillipians. Going back further, Solomon in the Proverbs discussed anxiety and worry. I dare say, our father Adam, anxiously walked out of the Garden of Eden after hearing the words, “cursed is the ground in your labors.” (Gen 3:17). 

However, neither is anxiety an abnormal response. In fact, it’s crucial to our survival. Imagine yourself standing in a jungle, face to face with a lion who has just finished fasting for lent. On the menu? You. Your natural response should be, RUN. Reacting to stressors, and taking action is completely normal. It is critical to our survival. 

So, where is the problem? When you’re sitting at home, and you perceive that uni assignment, task, meeting or phone call to be that lion about to eat you alive. Except you’re not in a jungle, and you’re not facing a lion. 

While there is danger, it’s not nearly as bad as what we make it out to be. Anxiety is a distortion. It is distorting the facts of reality, making a mixtape of these distortions, then playing them on repeat. Over, and over, and over again. 

This is good news! Why? It means something can be done about it. A physically unwell patient in a hospital is always joyful and hopeful to hear that their illness can be treated or cured, as opposed to being terminal. Similarly, we have the power to take a very active role in keeping ourselves mentally healthy. Just as a physically unwell Christian will combine both prayer and sacraments along with modern medicine, so too must anxiety be treated. 

Often, especially as christians, we make the distinction with anxiety that it’s either a mental/physical problem, or a spiritual problem. There is no such distinction. Humans are not purely spiritual or physical beings. Anxiety, as a mental experience, has a clear physical state that can be measured, diagnosed, and described. However, as these physical signs accompany biological responses in our nervous system, as such they produce thoughts, affect emotions, and produce other physical and mental responses. 

Our physical and mental experience of course cannot be separated from our spiritual one either. We cannot discount the importance of our relationship with Christ, the King of peace.

A contemporary elder of Mt Athos makes this observation:

The image which we can use to describe the relationship of soul and brain is the violin with the violinist. Just as even the best musician cannot make good music if the violin is broken or unstrung, in the same manner a man’s behavior will not be whole (see 2 Tim 3:17) if his brain presents a certain disturbance, in which case the soul cannot be expressed correctly. It is precisely this disturbance of the brain that certain medicines help correct and so aid the soul in expressing itself correctly.

Elder Epiphanios Theodoropoulos

I would like to offer some advice taken from St Paul’s epistle to the Phillipian, that we can use to help achieve this inner calm and stillness, and help combat anxiety. 

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7

We hear this verse a lot, and sometimes we roll our eyes, “yes yes, prayer, but what else can I do.” St Paul is promising a lot, peace that surpasses all understanding, it means no one understands how or where this peace came from. No one can give you this same peace. 

Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you.

John 14:27

If we’re given this promise, we should take the commandments seriously. Keep in mind, St Paul wrote this verse from prison, not on holidays in Santorini, or at his holiday house in the countryside. Prison, for the crime of being Christian.

So what is St Paul commanding us?

Firstly, to be anxious for nothing. Easier said than we’d done. Don’t be anxious about that friend that ignored you, that job you lost, the exam you have in a week that you haven’t studied for, the bills that are piling up. Nothing. Does that mean it all magically goes away? Unfortunately not. That friend may very well be upset at you, you still don’t have a job, you might fail that exam, you still don’t have money for those bills. But let’s go back to the promise, we’re not always promised solutions, we’re promised peace. The peace of God. However, in gaining that peace, I now have greater strength, focus and grace to pursue solutions and to open my eyes to a way out that God is providing. I can confidently learn a new skill and find a job, I lovingly confront my friend and resolve the conflict, I get a wake up call and learn new ways of utilising my time to study, I learn to be generous with my money and not be concerned with how God will look after me. 

The reason that the Bible and the Church fathers are so adamant on the path of suffering being the path to salvation is this; in suffering we partake in the same path that Christ took. More than anything, this is our calling, to share with our Creator, our God, our Bridegroom; to share in His suffering is to share in the Resurrection after the crucifixion, to share in the Kingdom of Heaven. The same Kingdom of Heaven that is within us. 

The second commandment, in everything, by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. 

St Paul here gives us the other extreme. On one hand, “Be anxious for nothing”, on the other hand, “but in everything”. Whatever we may have been anxious about, past, present or future, he’s saying, turn it into a prayer. We crucify the anxiety, and raise it in prayer. If anxious and worrisome thoughts consume my mind all day, imagine turning each thought into a prayer. There is now a very real chance of attempting to “pray unceasingly.” Orthodoxy continuously teaches us this method of spiritual growth and progress. God glorifies our weaknesses for His glory, turning anxiety into peace, pain into healing, death into life. One of the most powerful tools for this is the Jesus Prayer. Fr Seraphim Rose in the book, “His Life and Works” says,

“Pain and suffering drive one to seek a more profound happiness beyond the limitations of this world. I am at this moment in some pain, and I call on the name of Jesus, in Whom alone we may transcend this world, may be with me during it, and His will be done in me.” 

Finally, “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

We are promised this peace, which is beyond comprehension, and we are promised protection by this peace. Peace guards our hearts and minds from the worries and fears of this world. It shields us from those destructive and intrusive thoughts that shatter our inner peace and gnaw away at our connection with Christ. 

This peace also doesn’t make sense. We don’t understand how it works, we don’t understand why it gives us so much strength and grace. In guarding our hearts, we are shielded from attaching our hearts to any other loves that are not Christ. Our emotions, feelings and desires are redirected towards all that is holy and pure. In protecting our minds, our thoughts, conscious and unconscious are transformed and instead of leading us away from our Creator, they lead us to Him.

Humus

Barriers to Repentance 6/7

Humus

by Shery Abdelmalak


How long O’ Lord, will you forget me forever? How long will my enemies triumph over me? (Ps 13:1)When will the pain stop?  I have cried out night and day before You. My soul is full of trouble and my life is drawing near to the grave (Ps 88:3).In the darkness, in the depths, I cry out to You. I tried so hard, God. Why can’t anyone see that? Nothing is working. Why won’t You answer me? How could you leave me like this?

It is the psalms of King David that revealed the depth of despair and sadness. King David felt pain and turned it over to God. For the moments that he stopped looking down and looked up to God, he found comfort. He realised that he was dust, but dust that was carried in the mighty Hands of our God.

This is the means of overcoming one’s ego and pursuing Christ. Humus, from the Latin word, soil, is what we strive for, nothing more, nothing less. To know that from dust I came and to dust I shall return. I am what I am, period. How can you put so much emphasis on dust?Humble yourself before the Lord and He shall lift you up (James 4:10).

It isn’t always that simple though. When trials come our way, it becomes difficult to look at anything beyond myself. From dust I came, and from dust I shall return – this is not a matter of self-depreciation but the ultimate comfort. All the stress, the worry, the anxiety, goes away when I can put things into perspective. It no longer becomes my problem, but His – in His Hands in put all my worries.

The struggles of this life can often be looked upon with angst and doubt. Rest assured, as Fr Seraphim Rose once said, “Suffering is an indication of another Kingdom which we look to. If being Christian meant being “happy” in this life, we wouldn’t need the Kingdom of Heaven.”Do not lose hope during trials, these are key to faith and salvation!

What can develop during times of tribulation is what Fr Daniel Fanous calls an obsession with me. This is comprised of three main parts:

  1. One’s thoughts being central to self
  2. An ignorance toward those around one’s self
  3. Being stuck in one’s own thought world

To be in this state is often neglected as a legitimate concern. While other spiritual problems are targeted much sooner, the ego poses a problem that is not easily overcome because of a lack of recognition. Repentance cannot even begin when I am so focused on me. Overcoming feelings of depression, anxiety and all other spiritual related causes that weigh us down is vital to returning to God through repentance.

For this, Fr Daniel Fanous lists some strategies;

  1. A sustained and intentional effort. We all fall along the spectrum of egotism. Recognise your position and fight to overcome.
  2. Seek help, with organic causes and hormonal changes as these are beyond the realm of spiritual healing alone.
  3. Develop a strong relationship with your confession father. Make him accountable for the sins you commit. Open yourself up to him fully and be open to correction
  4. The centre of the battle lies in your thoughts. Fight to overcome all thoughts, even those that seem harmless. This will allow you to grow in discipline also.
  5. Cultivate an attitude of service that is willing and actively seeking opportunities to serve at all times.
  6. Actively decrease so that God may increase. Do not speak of yourself regardless of whether this is positive or negative.
  7. Cultivate joy and peace in not only your thoughts, but in those whom you choose to surround yourself with.
  8. Pray using the Agpia. Prayer that is unguided is likely to fall in the traps of self-obsession.

When we learn to overcome ourselves, this is the greatest joy. We are not the centre of our own lives, Jesus is. I must decrease so that He may increase (John 3:30), and in so doing, our joy is made full. 

Sometimes our perception of joy is skewed. Sometimes we chase happiness over joy. For whatever void presents, we fill it with momentary pleasures. While I may see nothing wrong with momentary pleasures and things that make me happy, but it is the underlying basis that causes the greatest harm. True joy stems for union with those around us. If hell is likened to complete separation from those around us, then eternal joy can be likened to unity.

St Macarius the Great was walking in the desert and found a skull lying on the ground. He poked it with his stick and it spoke saying,

“As far as the sky is removed from the earth, so great is the fire beneath us; we are ourselves standing in the midst of the fire, from the feet up to the head. It is not possible to see anyone face to face, but the face of one is fixed to the back of another. Yet when you pray for us, each of us can see the other’s face a little. Such is our respite.”

The greatest glimpse of joy in hell is when a person sees another. To be in hell is to be stuck in one’s self and have no interaction with those around them. To be consumed with one’s ego while on earth is to fall into the same torment that exists below. When the disciples of St John the Baptist came to him and told him all about Christ who was stealing his glory, his response was simple,

He who has the bride is the bridegroom; but the friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice. Therefore this joy of mine is fulfilled. He must increase, but I mustdecrease.”(John 3:29-30)

To choose a simple life as a friend of the Bridegroom is to live a joyful life. To live life grounded – humus. In humility is the foundation of all virtuous fruits. Love, joy, peace, long-suffering (patience), kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, long suffering – all start with humus.

What were once prayers of despair and worthlessness are overshadowed with something much greater as He makes us whiter than snow.

I have trusted in Your mercy; My heart shall rejoice in Your salvation (Ps 13:5).For who in the heavens can be compared to the Lord? Who among the sons of the mighty can be likened to the Lord? God is greatly to be feared in the assembly of the saints, And to be held in reverence by all those around Him (Ps 89:6-7).I found the one I love. I held him and would not let him go, (Song of Solomon 3:4).  I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me (Song of Solomon 7:10).

Glory be to God forever, Amen.

How to Control Your Thoughts

How to Control Your Thoughtsby Fr Anthony Messeh

Reposted from http://www.franthony.com/blog/how-to-control-your-thoughts 

Fr Anthony Messeh is an American Coptic Orthodox Christian living in Arlington, VA. The aim of his blog is to spread the message of a real, relevant and rewarding God.


That title is a bit misleading (but it sure is catchy isn’t it?).  You can’t actually “control” your thoughts – at least not in the same way that you can control other things, like a blender or a remote control car or a group of dancing robots.

It would be great if you could, but you can’t.  You can’t control every thought that comes into your head.  Thoughts will creep in that you have no control over.  For example:

Insecure thoughts:  “I’m not good enough and ______ probably thinks I’m annoying.”

Fearful thoughts: “I’ll never be able to fix this or get to that point in my career, marriage, etc.”

Negative thoughts: “My life is so difficult and everything is working against me.”

Impure thoughts: (no explanation needed for this one)

Dealing with thoughts like these isn’t easy.  It can be debilitating at times.  It feels like you’re in round 4 of a 15-round sumo wrestling match with this guy.  No matter what you do, the thoughts just keep coming and coming and coming…

Is there a solution?  Is there anything we can do?  Or are we destined to be slaves to our thoughts forever?

Jesus said, “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” John 8:32

The solution to your thought problem is often the exact opposite of what you might think.  The solution isn’t to REMOVE those pesky old thoughts, but rather to REPLACE them.

Imagine you have a 1,000 gallon tank of water.  Imagine that it’s full to the brim and you want to empty the water of it.  How would you do it?

You have two options:

Option A: try to pick up the pool and dump the water out (aka, the dumb way)

Option B: throw a rock in (aka, the smart/I-obviously-listen-to-Fr.-Anthony way)

What would happen if you tried the first option – to pick it up and dump the water out?  YOU WILL FAIL.  You will fail and you will be exhausted as well.  That’s because trying to REMOVE the water doesn’t work.

But what would happen if you tried the second option – throw a rock in?  A little water would splash out.  And if you threw another rock in?  A little more would splash out.  And what would happen if you continued to throw rocks in there – one a day every day for 10 years?

ALL THE WATER WOULD BE GONE!

The same is true for your thoughts.  Stop trying to remove your old thoughts and instead seek to replace them.  How?

Below are four ways (or rocks) that you can use to replace those negative thought patterns.

1) TALK IT OUT

As long as your thoughts remain hidden inside your head, they have power over you.  But once you let them out, they somehow become a lot easier to deal with.

2)  READ A LOT!

Reading is the fastest way to put new thoughts in your head.  For me personally, there is no more important habit than this.  I believe that reading will bring more fruit into life – when done consistently – than just about any other spiritual practice.  It certainly has for me.

3)  PRAY, BUT NOT A LOT

There’s a good way to pray about your thought problem – “Lord, I surrender my thoughts to You and ask Your Holy Spirit to guide my thoughts this day.

And then there’s a not-so-good way to pray:  “please God help me to stop remembering my mistakes and thinking that I’m a bad person.  I know I made mistakes but please help me to stop remembering them all the time – especially that one mistake that was just so awful.  Please please please help me stop thinking about that mistake and how awful I am…”

Prayer is good, but obsessive prayer is not good.  The kind of prayer you need is the kind that a) is THANKFUL, b) is TRUSTING, and c) PRAISING.

4)  JUST SAY NO!

Learn to reject thoughts that you KNOW are not true and from the devil.  JUST SAY NO!  Say what Jesus said when His disciple Peter introduced a thought that He didn’t want/need to hear, “GET BEHIND ME SATAN!  You are an offense to Me, for you are not mindful of the things of God, but the things of men.” (Matthew 16:23)

Trust me, if you struggle with your thought life, you are not alone.  It is something that everyone struggles with to some degree.  Believe me, there’s help for you.  You don’t need to live as a slave to your thoughts forever.  But you must be committed to taking small steps every single day and being patient as those small steps add up to major changes in your way of thinking.

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